2013. New year, new resolutions. Eat better. Exercise more. Take more risks. Gain self-confidence. Find true love… So generic. Yet I find myself basing my New Year goals around these themes. Just like every other girl my age. But I’d like to phrase my goals in a slightly different way.
Be consciously aware of what you put into your body. Avoid rumination and maintain good health by playing a sport I’ve always loved. Be ready to face a hard semester of classes, research, volunteering, and whatever else life throws at you. Stop questioning your abilities and just roll with it…if you forget you’re beautiful, then how will you every truly accept that you are? And finally…put in as much effort as you seem fit in the current relationship, with hopes that it will all pay off in the end. It’s not about finding true love from just a man, but loving yourself too.
Step number 1 to achieving these goals this year: resist the urge to fear. The weak break the easiest. Be strong, or at least pretend (with hopes that your pretending will lead to actualization).
Step number 2: have fun. Study time is study time. Relaxation time is relaxation time, and so on. When it’s time to joke around and be playful, forget the other stresses until necessary. Living in the moment requires the ability to segregate the everyday stresses in life from the adventures.
And last, but not least, step number 3: if you don’t love it, leave it. If any of the above goals turn out to be a waste of time, or a path leading to failure, bail. I have learned over the years that a goal can only be achieved if you put in equal amounts of effort and passion. Without effort, you will not succeed. Without passion, you may succeed, but it won’t have a significant impact on you and your life…so why waste your precious time? Go big or go home.
I sure love the sweet smell of success. My success, or the success of my friends and family. How rewarding it is to see someone glowing at the fact that they were triumphant, that they proved to provide enough effort and passion to compete their goals…sharing a moment like that with someone is a reminder of how important it is for us to support one another. How success should be regarded and rewarded in some way. A brief high-five, maybe a quick compliment…it all counts!
So Happy New Year to you all. Good luck with your New Year resolutions. Remember to reward yourself, and others.